In the book of Roman's, the Apostle Paul says, “True love is this: that while we were still in our sins, Christ died for us.” Does God hate gay people? No, but homosexual behavior is a sin. Popularity and truth are not often friends. When it comes to socially acceptable sins like that of the LGBTQ movement, we cannot pretend such is not sin. The Bible, in the old and new testament shows that homosexuality is a self-destructive sin. Jesus quotes Genesis in acknowledging that marriage is between one man and one woman. Many who are unfamiliar with the Bible will often claim that Jesus, or the new testament do not speak on the issue of homosexuality. We see this issue addressed in the Gospels and epistles. This quote from unbelievers is made from ignorance. Paul Washer says on matters of misquoting God’s Word, “Twist not scripture lest ye be satan.”

While the Bible is clear that homosexuality is abnormal and sinful, we should not expect those who do not know Jesus to take that as authoritative evidence. Biologically, we do not see this lifestyle as hereditary or innate. The idea of a “gay gene” or biological programming is an outdated and disproven claim. Homosexual arousal is now linked to behaviorial development due to childhood abuse, absence of a father figure, and other negative stimuli that many who have same sex attraction have suffered through. If we found homosexuality to have a hereditary link, it would not affect our perception. Alcoholism has a hereditary link. This community would still need to be approached in love and truth. We want them to know Jesus, not just conform to the rules of a God they do not believe in.

My Friend Has Homosexual Attractions, What Do I Do?

Love them and treat them as other humans. They do not know our God and they need to know Him a lot more than they need to know of any personal dislike you may have of their sin. The issue for your friend is not his lifestyle, it is his lack of relationship to God. We should not expect your friends of others to follow the laws of a God they do not believe in. The issue for a non-Christian is not their lifestyle, it is that they do not know God. We should want them to know God, before we want them to follow His way. I was in a class where the speaker shared about his past and how he overcame these attractions. His response to this question was to remember that every individual is made in the image of God. Every individual no matter who they are or what they have done deserves respect and dignity. Like anyone else, this person is someone for us to love and be a friend too. The media paints Christians as hating these friends of ours. It is our job to show the lie that this is. We do not accept their sin, but it does not mean that we withhold our love or avoid them. This individual like most other people can probably be your friend. We need to share truth and Jesus with these individuals. We do not have to focus on the sins of homosexuality. They are likely fully aware of this. Like everyone else who is lost, it is our job to show them Christ. We do not hate someone because of their sin. If they ask, we should let them politely know that we do not approve and see that lifestyle as a sin, and that we do care for them. We should be the first to step in for these individuals if we seem them being bullied, harmed, or in need.

In summary, we have a biblical love for them, we honor them by looking past the sin, and we respect them even if we are unable to agree with their lifestyle choices. God is respectful to us and allows us to have the ability to choose wrong. As Ricky Chellette put it, “God could squish us for wrong choices and He doesn’t.” Likewise, we should not try to squash others for their choices, nor should we use their sins to make our sins appear smaller. If we are reaching out in love, that will never be our goal.

Ricky Chellette founded Living Hope Ministries.. If you wish to know more, the following link may be helpful: https://www.livehope.org/